Surely you want to know everything about getting your ex back… I can fully understand and support this respectful intention because I was there too and I remember that old wounds… Wistful feelings… Loneliness and pain… Everything. Sometimes - too clearly.

But I don't want to belabor on your fresh wounds, so let's get back to your future reconciliation. In this article you'll discover the most fatal and even foolish mistake that most of the people (including me - in the past) usually make trying to get their ex lover back. So let's get started…

This Deadly mistake is: looking for support and approval… of your ex.

So how to get your ex back? First of all, answer a simple question, my dear friend. When you and your beloved partner have met for the first time, what do you think made them attracted to you? Depression? Pain? Loneliness? Fear? Unhappiness?

I bet not. It's very unlikely for people to be attracted to these qualities and emotions, and for your ex too - surely! People (including you and me) often find the exact opposite appealing to us: happiness, joy, excitement, interest, curiosity, friendliness, openness, positive motivation… And so on and so forth.

The point is: your depression and neediness will only repel your ex further away from you. So if you want to achieve your goal of getting back the ex, first of all - shift to the positive state of mind. Without this be sure - you've lost them forever - trust me at this point.

But, in depressed and anguished state of mind, in the emotional turmoil that comes after breakup, we usually resort to self-deception by convincing ourselves that if we can make our ex "feel sorry" for us, they will obviously desire to get back together with us immediately. Do you plan getting back together with your ex this way?

Do you plan to act pitiful and depressed? Begging them to take you back as dramatically as possible… Or the other way is to act very upset and often doing various unclever things just to let your ex know how hard this breakup is for you etc.

Basically, if we go this way, what we really will be doing is just… Pushing our ex away even further from us! You know why? Because we're acting in the totally opposite way of what actually brought us together with our beloved partner in the first place. We don't become attractive, but instead of that waste our vital resources just to become as unattractive as we can… In their eyes.

Acting like this is makes getting our ex back a completely hopeless task. Sorry, but I had to say that.

So you definitely need to take a step back and critically analyze your actions - being as honest as you can. Before thinking about getting back an ex, think about how to stop repelling them. That's the secret.

So the point is: don't do counter-productive things before you start applying productive strategies! That's the first milestone of long-term success. I wish you the best luck with your reconciliation.